One of the biggest milestones in one’s life is marriage. It’s something many of us aspire for, and many of us are scared of. Both feelings are justified, given its such a big decision which will change the trajectory of your life in ways we can’t imagine.
Its one thing for marriage to be a big deal, and it’s another to make an enormously big deal about it. The internet is bombarded with pictures like these, which are going over and above the level of expectations and filters a person needs to have before they get married.
Looking at statistics for overtime, the long-term trend in the European Union shows that the number of marriages is decreasing, while the number of divorces is increasing. Since 1964, the marriage rate in the EU has declined from 8.0 per 1 000 persons 1964 to 4.3 in 2019. At the same time, the divorce rate has more than doubled, increasing from 0.8 per 1 000 persons in 1964 to 1.8 in 2019.
Marriage is an institution where you need to compromise and at the end of it, ‘make it work’. It definitely always is better to have a common understanding of what aligns with you and the other person, but to talk about your political views, dream home, and parenting styles? This sounds absurd to want to have everything singularly aligned to your taste. We might as well as start investing more money in cloning and wait for those to grow and marry them.
Marriage is complicated, that goes without saying, but it has we have made it extremely intricate and such expectations can never be met by any one person. It’s always going to be a different dynamic for everyone, and you need to figure out what works for you. In the end, it still, is a lot of compromise and understanding and communication which will make it work. Let’s just not overcomplicate, an already difficult and important matter.